I’m really thrilled to give you the story of Rebecca and Thom’s wedding. Rebecca was one of my very first readers almost a year ago, and having kept track of her story for all these months, it’s so personally heartening to me to get to share her wedding day – complete with a shared family dress. So without further ado, Rebecca, Thom, and the matching…
Thom and Rebecca Bedford, Massachusetts — October 2008
The first thing that kept me sane is that I had those important conversations with people I love. Everyone has their own perceptions about who you should marry, how you should marry, and when you should marry. Those emotions are theirs alone — they have nothing to do with the bride herself — and yet they can make a bride miserable. Have those conversations! They may be difficult, but they are necessary — if not, you may be repeating the same dysfunctional pattern long after the wedding is over!
Oh yes, and I learned how to let go. When the florist didn’t understand my floral vision a week before the wedding, I settled my expectations low so I would not be disappointed on the day of the wedding. When I discovered — at the rehearsal — that the organist a family member insisted on hiring is less familiar with the organ than anyone thought, I chuckled; it was sort of endearing. I knew, too, that I am the only person who can ruin my wedding — by letting the small stuff get to me — and as long as Thom and I were married at the end of the day, it was going to be the best day of my life (so far!). I am happy to report that it was!